Laughter is like having an orgasm in your throat. When we laugh, we cannot take ourselves seriously. When we laugh, we only laugh: we can’t think, we can hardly move.
          – Margot Anand, The Art of Everyday Ecstasy

The flow of our sexual energy surrounds us everyday – in the soft, sensuous touch of the warm breezes, in the red early-morning sun, in the eyes of total strangers we meet in passing, in the long, wet kiss of a lover. What would it take for you to bask in those intimate connections, to give yourself permission to feel them with a full-body sense of eroticism for no other purpose than simply to feel?

Thoreau has a wonderful essay on the art of walking, of true sauntering. He says this art is not for the faint of heart or those who are “out for a tour, half of which is spent retracing steps.” True saunterers, Thoreau tells us, are “in search of the Holy Land – they embark in the spirit of adventure, never to return again.”

Learning to saunter with sexual energy requires lots of letting go or “should-shedding.” So many of us restrict our experience of sexual energy to certain time frames and places. The purpose is oftimes more about achieving orgasm than about an intimate saunter in joy. Making time for true connectivity and lusciously lazy sexual play can feel decadent. But does it always need to be better, faster, stronger? Perhaps it is simply fear of the unknown or guilt at the thought of indulgence that keeps us from exploring this powerful life energy outside of our known quick steps and hurried patterns.

Learning to saunter with your sexual energy, to see its landscape as infinite, instead of restricted to certain times and spaces, requires an adventurous spirit, for sure. But perhaps more than anything, it requires these two things: changing the way you think about your sexual energy – and lots of practice.

Erotic Woman is brought to you by Rev. Marsha Lehman  

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